Friday, July 31, 2009

If you are hosting an adult event and someone shows up with a child, what do you do?

My house is not child proofed and the parents don't supervise their child.

If you are hosting an adult event and someone shows up with a child, what do you do?
If your invitation clearly indicated that it was an adult event and children weren't welcome, you would be 100% justified to inform them again, after they arrived, that children are not welcome. You wouldn't have to worry too much about being tactful at that point.





If your invitation was less clearly-worded, then you'd need to more carefully consider what you would do. Perhaps suck it up and learn from your mistake, and make things much more clear in the future.





As far as I'm concerned, parents who don't supervise their children are being rude and tactless and don't deserve a whole lot of consideration. However, the other people at the party might think you are being rude if you kicked them out when the invitation wasn't worded clearly.
Reply:let them know that it is an adult party and that the next time to leave their child at home but dont ask them to leave that is rude
Reply:I had a birthday party for my husband a few years back and when I sent out the invitations I specified that it was a adult only party. I still had a couple that showed up with their kid. When the others saw that this couple brought their kid they went home and got their kids. Needless to say, my party was ruined. I had kids running all over the place. I was not able to serve the cake, since it was too adult for little eyes. I had a big fiasco on my hands. I also had a big mess to clean up from unruly kids. I have a child and he was at a babysitter! I think that if you plan an adult only party someone who has a child should make other arrangements or plan not to attend. I think there will still be that one person who will think that they are exempt though. Manners have just gone right out the windows these days!
Reply:I would ask that person to either find someone to watch their child elsewhere or to not attend your event. If the invitations specifically said an adult event then that's what it should be and there should be NO exceptions.
Reply:I'd initially "freak out" but keep it inside to avoid a scene...my house is "child-proof" too meaning, my husband and I do not have children therefore, we can decorate and furnish our home with antiques and priceless decorative items i.e. Lladro, crystal, etc. I'd politely put the kid(s) in a room upstairs with a TV and/or video or game and I would mention to the parents that "I would've appreciate it that you inform me that you are bringing your child; please do so the next time...." Unless it is a gathering that we say they can bring the kids, that's fine...and we have enough of those as well. I don't sound to be mean but there is a time and place for when it is just for adults.
Reply:Say: I am so glad you drop by even if it is only for a little while. And have fun at the movies with little Jojo.
Reply:i would still try to make the child to be good and have coloring thing for that child
Reply:Turn them away! Tell them the invitation was for adults only and you're sure they will understand why they are being asked to leave!
Reply:Well, once they show up with the child there isn't much you can do. It's best to make it clear before hand that it's adults only.
Reply:How awful! I have no idea how I would react to that. The gal that said put the child in another room with a movie sounds like the best answer.
Reply:Ask the parent if there isn't anywhere they can leave the child, as your house is not childproof and you are not sure whether the parent will supervise the child with no interruption to the adult conversations.
Reply:This has happened to us also. Our solution was to tell the child that he would be very bored at our adult party and asked if he would like to call a friend. The parents then take the child to the friends house and my problem is solved. If no friend is available I let the parents know that this party is not appropriate for little Jr. and suggest we get together another time.
Reply:Offer to call an all night sitting service, or very graciously say I am so sorry, I did send out invitations stipulating that this is an adult only affair, and the rest of my guests are looking very forward to a child free evening. Perhaps we can plan an outing at a later date to include your child, but again, sorry tonight is a well deserved child free night.
Reply:Hey enjoy the children, they are little sponges that take everything in give them a special task or some pencil and a book to colour if these friends pop in alot with their child go to go lo or a warehouse centre they have some cheap playthings you could start a little container of toys and put down a plastic cloth, give them some rules gently and smile at them, your friends might not have a babysitter and still like to socialise if you can support them your a Good friend, it might be you one day with a child, enjoy them they don't bite lol.


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Reply:Depending on how old the child is, put them in another room with a movie.
Reply:What does chid-proofing have to do with it? I have two kids and my house isnt chid-proofed. What kind of child did they bring an infant? or older child? And was the aprty an evening party or daytime?





Evening party-- The parent may have figured since the time was getting late they could put the baby to sleep ina back room. Or for an older child figured there would be somewhere he/she could play quietly.





Daytime party -- Perhaps they couldnt find a babysitter.





Thats all I can think of for now.
Reply:1) make it clear on the invitation that it is an event for ADULTS only





2) if they bring a kid anyway, send them home.


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